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Understanding what it means to have a communication disorder in Autism/Asperger's

By Maxine and Daniel

People with ASD often suffer the frustrating experience of being misunderstood. Others act hurt and offended by something they did when no offense was intended. The problem is, our children may get these reactions from people all day long. Communicating is like walking on a minefield--you never know when things are going to blow up in your face. The feeling of living on edge...of waiting to mess up...can cause tremendous anxiety, as can the angry, punitive responses they can elicit all ...

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Could you be a woman with Asperger's?

By Maxine and Daniel

C’mon. You know you’ve wondered. As you’ve read about your child’s ASD, you give a nervous giggle as you realize that many of the things you’re reading about kind of, sort of, maybe apply to you, too.

I’ve gathered a list of anecdotal traits of Asperger women. This list comes from my own experience, my reading, and my work experience with many creative, resilient, and bright women on the spectrum.

Keep in mind I am not a therapist or a doctor, that this list is anecdotal, and identifying with this ...

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Frustrated by your child's persistence?

By Maxine and Daniel

You may approach the bench:

Ask anyone who is raising a child with Asperger’s and they’ll tell you: man, can our kids negotiate!

And by negotiate, I mean tell you over and over again, in many different ways, what they want, why they should have it, and why you are wrong for keeping it from them.

Oh sure. They’ll let you get the odd word in edgewise, but they’ll listen to you only long enough to find a hole in your response and then BAM!!, they’ll lawyer you into a corner ...

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What good teachers know about teaching kids with autism - a wishlist

By Maxine and Daniel

This is a wishlist of teaching practices. I am not a teacher-I'm an Aspie advocate and champion, writer, parent, grandparent and public speaker who works in the autism field. I do parent-trainings, assist with IEPS, and have the great pleasure of working with many excellent teachers who understand our children or work to find answers if they're stuck. Anyhoo...here you go:

+ I'll just tell parents what I have observed from their child and keep all editorial comments out my communication with them--unless it's to say their kid is awesome!

+ I never ...

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Autism's magic bullet finally found!

Improve your autistic child's self esteem and school performance, reduce meltdowns!

By Maxine and Daniel

Cheesy headline? You bet. It's a bit dramatic and overstated, but indulge me. I watch too many Infomercials.

Though my headline is sensational, I have something completely legitimate to share with you. It’s a no-cost, easy-to-learn strategy that can make a world of difference for your Asperger child.

You ready?

The secret to supporting autism is not in the strategies--it’s in the approach---a calm, kind, gentle approach. Calm parents, calm teachers, calm relatives, kind strangers all contribute to a successful life ...

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